I just completed my survey about relationships.
"The info regarding the survey was taken from groups of individual who have been through difficult times in relationships."
What I found out was, couples who are both 1st lovers tend to last longer than those who have already been through breakup/breakups before.
Why is that so?
I can't answer it but,
A lot of my friends have been together with their partner for many years, approximately 3 years or more since they got together. Within these years, countless arguments and dissatisfaction upon each other occurred between them until breakup has becoming imminent.
The amazing thing is, they are still together as happy couples.
Why?
Because they sat down calmly and compromised with each other regarding the many problems occured among themselves. They cared for each others feelings and the importance of their relationship.
Another case is that, a couple that has already separated from each other for 3 years but haven't broke up.
But they did broke up recently.
Few days later after the breakup, they were together again because the girl intended to give him a 2nd chance. Why?
Because she cared about his feelings. He doesn't want to end it just like that. The guy promised to change for the better.
This is an example of trust. " From my opinion, without it, doubts and confusion will take place. This tends to make the person think too much. Trust is one of the many essential factors required in relationships. "
In contrast,
Most 1st lovers are loyal whereas most non-1st lovers are the absolute opposite of 1st lovers.
What I found out was, most of the non-1st loves tend to breakup more often than usual.
The person who proposed the breakup would likely get a new substitute pretty quick.
That's how they accumulated the ascending numbers of ex-lover.
Why is that so again?
In my opinion, they are just selfish because they only care about their own happiness and does not bother whether the other partner lives or dies.
They tend to give silly and ridiculous reasons to push him/her away.
Why?
Because they do not have a clear valid and reasonable answer to call off a breakup.
Most excuses are just assumptions and disbelieving of the other partner(victim).
Moreover, they do not know what's the meaning of forgiveness as well.
As long as they themselves are happy with his/her choice, that's it. END OF STORY..
From the beginning, I thought I was the only rare case but to my surprise, it isn't.
That's how I came out with this survey results.
In conclusion, most non-1st lovers tend to be extremely naive and only believe that what they do are 100% correct. That's why they do not even bother to look back into the past whether their choices are right or wrong. They are so sure that, all will be fine and everyone is happy.
"What I think is, these kind of people are just like king's sending out his troops to war and proudly ensuring flawless victory at war. How much blood has spilled and all the citizen's sufferings caused by the war, he does not feel it and neither will he care about it at all because he is happily enjoying his moments in his palace. As long as he gets what he wanted then ok already. But what his expectation back-fired? That's how kings always get overthrown by others because they are just too naive in believing no one can stop them."
In addition, these non-1st lovers does not care about the scars left behind due to their own naive decisions because they do not care how people suffer from the impact of the breakup. They just assume " Aiya!! Get over with it la. Dun worry too much la. It's normal keh. Find new one lo. Not worth thinking too much d la, anyway, I won't come back one". Act as if nothing happened? Cakap saja besar la( Talk until so damn lun c)!! If it's that simple and normal, let me try doing that to you and see la!! SWT!!
They are happy because they get what they want and does not receive any negative impacts from it. That's why they could say such thing with outstanding pride and audacity. They will never know pain until they eat back their own medicine.
"The info regarding the survey was taken from groups of individual who have been through difficult times in relationships."
What I found out was, couples who are both 1st lovers tend to last longer than those who have already been through breakup/breakups before.
Why is that so?
I can't answer it but,
A lot of my friends have been together with their partner for many years, approximately 3 years or more since they got together. Within these years, countless arguments and dissatisfaction upon each other occurred between them until breakup has becoming imminent.
The amazing thing is, they are still together as happy couples.
Why?
Because they sat down calmly and compromised with each other regarding the many problems occured among themselves. They cared for each others feelings and the importance of their relationship.
Another case is that, a couple that has already separated from each other for 3 years but haven't broke up.
But they did broke up recently.
Few days later after the breakup, they were together again because the girl intended to give him a 2nd chance. Why?
Because she cared about his feelings. He doesn't want to end it just like that. The guy promised to change for the better.
This is an example of trust. " From my opinion, without it, doubts and confusion will take place. This tends to make the person think too much. Trust is one of the many essential factors required in relationships. "
In contrast,
Most 1st lovers are loyal whereas most non-1st lovers are the absolute opposite of 1st lovers.
What I found out was, most of the non-1st loves tend to breakup more often than usual.
The person who proposed the breakup would likely get a new substitute pretty quick.
That's how they accumulated the ascending numbers of ex-lover.
Why is that so again?
In my opinion, they are just selfish because they only care about their own happiness and does not bother whether the other partner lives or dies.
They tend to give silly and ridiculous reasons to push him/her away.
Why?
Because they do not have a clear valid and reasonable answer to call off a breakup.
Most excuses are just assumptions and disbelieving of the other partner(victim).
Moreover, they do not know what's the meaning of forgiveness as well.
As long as they themselves are happy with his/her choice, that's it. END OF STORY..
From the beginning, I thought I was the only rare case but to my surprise, it isn't.
That's how I came out with this survey results.
In conclusion, most non-1st lovers tend to be extremely naive and only believe that what they do are 100% correct. That's why they do not even bother to look back into the past whether their choices are right or wrong. They are so sure that, all will be fine and everyone is happy.
"What I think is, these kind of people are just like king's sending out his troops to war and proudly ensuring flawless victory at war. How much blood has spilled and all the citizen's sufferings caused by the war, he does not feel it and neither will he care about it at all because he is happily enjoying his moments in his palace. As long as he gets what he wanted then ok already. But what his expectation back-fired? That's how kings always get overthrown by others because they are just too naive in believing no one can stop them."
In addition, these non-1st lovers does not care about the scars left behind due to their own naive decisions because they do not care how people suffer from the impact of the breakup. They just assume " Aiya!! Get over with it la. Dun worry too much la. It's normal keh. Find new one lo. Not worth thinking too much d la, anyway, I won't come back one". Act as if nothing happened? Cakap saja besar la( Talk until so damn lun c)!! If it's that simple and normal, let me try doing that to you and see la!! SWT!!
They are happy because they get what they want and does not receive any negative impacts from it. That's why they could say such thing with outstanding pride and audacity. They will never know pain until they eat back their own medicine.
P/S : I'm not saying all non-1st lovers are like that, just that mostly are like that only. Also, not all 1st lovers are loyal to the max, still they are some who act like typical non-1st lovers. This survey is based on majority/large percentage(not fully 100%) groups of people. "Without trust, no relationship can withstand for long." Relationships often breakup when either of the partners starts to think something bukan-bukan because of disbelieving and doubts on the victim especially their capabilities of adjustments.